Saturday, April 26, 2008

A comment from a reader..

Anyone who actually follows all of that advice, is a complete and total sheep. Not just a poser, but a conformist follower. It's so sad how some people say that being 'emo' is being unique and individual, when you are just reading a few 'how-tos' on the subject.

If you truly are being who you really are, and truly are being an individual, then nobody can give you a 'how-to'. Develop your own personal style and be yourself, not just one of the mindless followers of thousands of teenagers who all look and dress exactly alike.

On that subject, it actualy truly saddens me when I read a few of these comments saying 'heavier set guy, not fat, just bulky, i know this is a bad thing' or 'little puggy (not fat) how to I trem it down to small again? (with out turning it into muscle?)'

The foolish people who write these articles are just contributing to the body image crisis that is sweeping this world, making these peoples self esteem PLUMMET. The people who leave these comments are probably at an incredibly healthy and attractive weight, but people writing these how to be emo articles are telling them LIES about who they 'should' be.

If you are truly overweight like 300kg then I'd say lose some weight but it's not a bad thing to have a few curves!!

WHY are you telling them what to do and how to live their life, how much to weigh, how to look etc., and WHY are you listening to these people telling you to do these things? You are perfect the way you are- your true self is who you were meant to be and not what some 'how-to' tells you to do on the internet.

Don't put on the mask of labelling yourself, become truly unique and appreciative of who you really are on the inside. Nobody can tell you how to dress or how to look, only YOU can tell yourself that.

It really is sad, that people think they need to conform to some emo standard of style to give themselves any worth.

You need not be anyone other than yourself. Don't let people tell you how to live your life, only YOU can tell yourself that. I eagerly await the day that people finally start to wake up to who they really are inside.
46 comments

Blogger Mikaela said...

I love you!

April 27, 2008 at 1:46:00 PM PDT

 
OpenID urban-queen41 said...

Wow, this is my post... I just logged onto this site to show my friends what I posted, but I definitely didn't expect to see this! Thank you for posting this, maybe now some people will realise they have to be themselves.

And I love you too mikaela =]

April 28, 2008 at 9:28:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

omg finally
thats exactly how i feel
about society and the way
people try to mold themselves
into something they are not or something that they think is cool

April 30, 2008 at 6:58:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow...
I never really thought of things that way...
I mean, I think it's fine to look for a little inspiration on the internet, but these how-to guides are a bit pointless. It is important to be yourself, not just copy =)
Thank you!

May 1, 2008 at 9:47:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Drop_Dead_Frank said...

FINALLY.
people are actully starting to see sense.
._.

May 4, 2008 at 5:34:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Urban queen thats totally true sorry for who evers this blog is that i'm not commenting on ur stuff. But queen keep preaching! Yes at least someone has sense.

May 4, 2008 at 1:57:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i dont think they are trying to tell you that you HAVE to dress/look like that i think its really just tips so if you want your hair a certan way you can have it like that. i agree with the things you said but sometimes its good to look good because when you think you look good you feel even better. ^.^ its truely hard not to conform because there are people who have the same interest. i consider myself a conformist of the nonconformist. ^.^

May 9, 2008 at 7:26:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

wow, that was one of the best things i've ever read.
you should become a writer

May 15, 2008 at 1:03:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

yessssssss finally someone else feels like i do about society

May 16, 2008 at 6:21:00 PM PDT

 
Blogger Dai said...

I don't totally agree with this
People don't come on here to be moulded physically into society so they blend in with the crowds and are "normal".
And while I do think that some misguided people may come here TO blend in, be "normal" - a lot of us on here are just emos who want to see how the hairstyle aspect is!

But I do agree on what you said in general. People should be themselves - hey, even if someone is a little "pudgy", who cares? Lose weight when you want to.

In the end, nobody really gives a crap what anyone does, or looks like!

May 19, 2008 at 1:33:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That comment made me feel a lot better about myself, thx :)

and I totally agree with it, ppl should start accepting others even if they aren't drop dead gorgeous or emo or whatever style.

May 19, 2008 at 3:05:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

oh shut up. no one cares about your stupid comment and how emo is not individual or emo is following the crowd. why would you be on this site anyway if thats how you think about emos? i happen to think emo and scene hair cuts are amazing and should be framed! this is just to show you HOW to do stuff to your hair. like a template if you like. something to mould your own look on. i personally have always loved these hair cuts but have never had enough confidence to get one. so i visited this site to prove to myself that other people have broken the mould and that i can build the confidence to get one to.

rant over :)

May 27, 2008 at 7:02:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Anna said...

Wow that was a good peice
i agree how to's r a waste of tym a load of rubbish!
if emo is soo originol y have a how to?
im not against emos or nuthin, tbh i love their style n hair

but be yourself guys
as long as your happy with yourself who cares what others think =]


luv you all ..x

May 27, 2008 at 3:59:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

wow...this is completley true..let peoplee do wha dey want to..if they're fat leave them, of course its not good to be completley over weight, but if that's the way they wanna be its their life, people make them feel bad...and that's not good...they are who they are!

good advice!!!!<3

June 1, 2008 at 2:30:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it's just a hairstyle guide, --, not 10 testaments. don't rush to save the world.
when i want to see a sheep, i look at people posting --- and i always see a kid dressed in jeans, sneakers and with haircut your mom loves. you'd better shut up about individuality.

June 6, 2008 at 8:09:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Kurtis said...

Grr, you lot are just like the rest of them 'I'm not a scene kid, I'M ME, be yourself, dont follow crowds' when youre probably the biggest scene kid or emo person ever to live, i dont care what i am or look like, if people want to label me then good for them, im not arsed,and neither should anyone else be. They just wanted tips on how the best way it is to do their hair in a certain way...
simple as!

now lets all forget our troubles over a big bowl of strawberry icecream

June 9, 2008 at 10:57:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm not trying to conform to anything really, and if I am by saying I like the hairstyly and decide to cut my hair that way, so be it. What does it matter? It's just hair. It can't tell somebody your life story and it can't change who you are. I thought this was a really helpful guide, though I'm definitely not cutting it myself. Thankyou creator of guide!

June 11, 2008 at 2:29:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im sorry but this comment was just stupid, this website has never said that you have to look like this to be cool, it just offers tips on how to get a hairstyle that the people who read this blog would like

June 12, 2008 at 6:23:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

WOW. This is effing retarded. Some people ARE themselves, even if they read or DO these how-to things. Emo is just a style, and no one is really alike, everyone adds their own PERSONAL style to it. Deal with it, just because you don't like it doesn't mean anyone else can't! You know none of these people who are reading this, so yeah.

i'm done rambling... :P not sure exactly what "message" i'm meaning to portray with what i said, but, i hope you get it. :]

June 14, 2008 at 8:26:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dudes...loosen up! so what if people are given how to tips. some people actually like the - hairstyle. its just like some people to call others posers just because they like something that you have. then you call the same people jealous when they dont like what you have. yeah the tips were kinda lame, but to insult the ones who actually like it. it has nothing to do with "molding". its just a guide to help with ur hair. YOU DONT EVEN HAVE TO USE IT! people THINK before you say and do. if you actually read the damn thing it talks about HAIR not ur personality, OR "emos".

June 15, 2008 at 1:54:00 AM PDT

 
Blogger EMOtional said...

it rly doesn't matter what ppl do wit htheir hair or where dey get it 4rm

I mean, seriously....

If u call ppl who tak advices/or copy others pozer

we'll all b pozerzzz except the cavemen!

lol

June 16, 2008 at 12:57:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

uh It looks like people do care about what this person wrote as well as they agree with it so, this is for the one who wrote: "oh shut up nobody cares..." yeah just be yourself and do whatever u want, why is it that everytime somebody tries to destroy an average image, it becomes another group with a name... "emo" why the fuck have a damn name just do what u want and stop judging or you'll be a hypocrite who tries to demolish masks of society by creating your own.

June 23, 2008 at 11:37:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Meganificent; said...

In my opinion
I don't really think
that the how-tos are
THAT bad...
I mean, it's kind of
fun to know how to do
some of these things,
because every once in a
while I like to mess with
my hair in these ways,
but I see your point.
I really do think that
'scene' and 'emo'
can be neat BASES
for your style, if you
do it right,
but really the people
that only go by what other
people say
are just as bad as the people
they're trying not to be like.
I love this site, because
I've always liked sites like
it, but I definitely see your
point. Thanks!

June 25, 2008 at 5:56:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous radiostarr said...

let me start by saying i love you and you are correct. there are so many "people" i see who follow these kinds of things...i mean its so obvious..its sad ._. more importantly people misuse the word "emo" alot nowadays and this is one of the ways how. Being unique is not following a badly-defined stereotype and especially not labeling yourself...i mean who are you if you do that? A Jar? Soup Can perhaps? you dont need to be taught one how you express yourself,dear. just live.

and please dont even get me started on "scene" kids. if anyone would like to talk my myspace url should be posted.

June 29, 2008 at 3:24:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

actually, now that you think about it, if theres a bunch of people going emo style.... then pretty soon emo's not gonna be as "different". =_=

but every style has its beauty. this blog just tries to show the beauty of emo. its mostly just tips. nobody's forced to follow it.

so theres not really a need to target that, but im really glad you brought out the thing on body image, urban-queen41.

the world is messed up. but oh well, we'll survive. ^-^

July 1, 2008 at 7:57:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't see how people can say that "emos' and "scene kids" aren't being themselves.
You don't see people getting called sheep because they wear BLUE JEANS like everybody else or they have BROWN HAIR like everybody else.
Everybody is intitled to their OWN opinion. If they want hair tips then they can read them.

Screw the trends.

July 2, 2008 at 3:22:00 AM PDT

 
Blogger my_opinion said...

i aggree that following EXACT instructions from these sorts of things in magazines or the internet is retarded, but i dont agree with the other parts.. sum ppl nead a lil guidance and these sites help them, i personaly wudnt do anythng ppl tell me to but iv gaind my own uniqueness. sum ppl nead to find theirs soo they nead alil guidance. idc as long as there is anuther unique person then the world is doing beter than b4. i kno ppl dont just automaticaly kno evrythng, like how to look and what to think normally ppl get an IDEA off pics or looking at other pplz, and it is wrong to put down the ppl who came and will come to these sites bc aperantly u was on the webpage for a reason.. all of the ppl who read this came to the webpage so no1 can say anythng, well u can bc its yur opinion just plz dont putt down other ppl..

July 2, 2008 at 1:15:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous The Bird! said...

Definately makes sense, I must say.

The whole scene aspect facinates me. You know, the way they do their make up and hair and bodies. Which is all photoshopped, obviously.
It's just the style sort of inspires me on my outside appearance. I wear skinny pants, which fit me quite comfortabaly. I like to experiment with my hair. I don't follow it like it's my main priority, like most.

However, in my opinion, sometimes it's funny to wake up in the morning and look at your bed hair in the mirror and think, "Hey, you're a cool kid," before taming it. Or even wear those skinny jeans out to party or a family gathering you don't want to be at, just because you're confident that you look dashing.

But to turn it into a vain obsession is pretty sad.

Even though I'm probably like some people when it comes to my fashion choices, you can't avoid everyone else's blind judgement. We all know. Does the word "labels" ring a bell?
It's stupid how people like running around and yelling "LOLEMO" at anyone with bangs that pass the eyebrows.

And seriously. Overly tight jeans don't make sense. You must really practice on conservative breathing to be used to that.
Why not wear pants that acually fit you?

July 3, 2008 at 8:45:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Exactly!
Emos are so, uhh, not good role models, but all these people are saying stuff like "i hate life" and eerything, effing annoying.
Great post though!
=)

July 5, 2008 at 9:37:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This was interesting....
i think it is kind of pointless to be reading somthing that tells you how to be emo..... by doing this you sound like a total poser >.<
dont listen to this! find your own style, and start a new trend.

July 7, 2008 at 10:34:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The Only reason that I'm actually on here is to look at the Hair style things... My parents hate guys with long hair, so they HATE my hair (n) so I was lokking for a style that I could use as a base for my own style... but they like ALL have long hair! LMAO so maybe I'
ll stick with my current hair (//___^ ) --KyleBeans

July 10, 2008 at 11:21:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

heyys. first of all, i'd like to say that what you wrote is really good and you should consider writing =] anyways back on topic. i don't really agree with you on what you posted. It seems like you were being all big on the whole open mind, let kids be themselves concept, when really, that post is kinda really closed minded and biased. So what if people dress like "emo" or "scene"? It's THEIR choice -- their way to express their individuality in a world where so many people are the same! And here you are speaking out about how you should be yourself and thats what people with the "scene" look are trying to do -- something different then all the Hollister and Abercrombie and Fitch wearing people out there. You should tell those people about individuality, and how they shouldn't spend money on low-quality insanely over priced see through shirts that everyone else has. If you think scene and emo kids are trying to mold into something they think is cool and are being just a copy, i ask you as i did before -- what about all the Hollister kids?? 95% of the people in my school have at least 2 Hollister or Abercrombie t-shirts. Where did all of our individuality go...?

*sigh* sorry rant over. just UGH theres SOOOOOOOOOo many more abercrombie wearing people than scene kids. i just think you are attacking the wrong style. They're so clone-y its not even funny *shudders*
xoxo

July 11, 2008 at 7:38:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i agree 100% but i dont think you should automatically call them posers. Everyone has there own identity. They wear the cloths they like, they wear their hairs the way they like, but eventually that style gets old. so they look for new ones right. But some people might need help looking for one so they might look through a hair magazine. That doesnt make them a poser. Their still the same person, they just wanted to change their look a little. But if a person trys copy someone else's identity and be like them then that is a poser.

July 12, 2008 at 5:52:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Elita said...

I am not emo or anything but i love scene hairstyles. i've went through many diff. styles and put my own touch to it. who doesn't though? even though there are "emo" "how-to's" no matter how much you read what they say your hair or clothes isn't going to turn out the same way. your touch is in every thing you do. no matter if they say wear tight pants and a tight shirt i doubt its this one shirt every emo is supposed to have. and this is because we are all diff. no matter what we will always be ourself. Although i do agree with you on some points i also have to say i like this blog. its not telling you, its giving a basic to a style, the scene look. Emo and scene are to diff. things. Although most people say, "they dont see how emo/scene is about individuality because they're following the same style" this is not entirely true. scene is about being diff...their loud colors of hair and unique style of clothing its about standing out and not giving a crap about what everybody thinks of you standing...thats what i respect.

July 13, 2008 at 9:19:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Elita said...

How Do You Think You Find Hairstyles Anyway?
You Have To See It Some Where =)

July 13, 2008 at 9:22:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Shellie said...

I'm glad some of you set this reaser straight... I gaurantee you've probably seen a gorgeous dessert that you'd like to make and googles it to find the recipe. It's the exact same concept. These are recipes for cute hair. Nobody is saying that this is how you have to look to be accepted, they're trying to show people how they get their hair so big and the style so chic. I give them kudos for thior creativity and artsy craftsmanship.

July 18, 2008 at 10:34:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous courtney said...

welll.... i aggree.
BUT! tecnicly if your posting something on this and you were reading this in the first place wouldnt that make you just like the people your saying are stupid?
really. how did you wind up reading all of this if you think its dumb?
you pretty much a hypocrite.
people want to know how to make their hair the way they want it. if they think they need to change something about themselves...let them.not saying its right to tell people that they need to change themself.
i aggree with some things you wrote. but some of this is just cruel.

July 29, 2008 at 7:02:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ok ya most of this is true but you dont have to call ppl posers just because we like the same hair styles as you or we want to no some better hair tips or wat ever but i personaly think that only you yourself can determin what you look like and how you feel and if your a poser or not and if going on websites and reading how-tos is what ppl are going to do then let them i no im personaly not that much for it but if other ppl are good for them. ya i agree w. you abt the self asteem issue and everything so on your comment i would give u a 7 out of 10

July 30, 2008 at 10:53:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I LOVE YOU lol

August 5, 2008 at 8:53:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You really do have a point. I agree comletely. Sometimes people feel that way, though, because they feel the need to be apart of something.
I'm not saying that everyone should conform it's just that some people feel they need to because they don't know themselves yet and becoming apart of a group might show them what they want to be or the complete opposite.
Even though i got horribly off topic, i believe that you are right about society. I love your bluntness. Thank you for speaking up.

October 3, 2008 at 1:15:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What the hell is wrong with all of you? Being "emo" or "scene" is just a stereotype. It's a trademark that branched off of punks. Have a little more common sense, and try to realize that maybe being emo isn't the "cool" thing to do.

October 19, 2008 at 9:39:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Sarah said...

Wow, that has to be the most ridiculous, hypocritical and pointless blog I have read. Telling everyone to be individual just because you want people to feel guilty that they're not doing what you want? And what's more people are following in suit chorusing together oh yes we are all individuals! Or should I say bleating together! Who cares if you want to follow emo, hip hop or whatever, get advice or even model yourself on someone, big deal! It doesn't make you any less individual! Who cares? As long as you all feel comfortable then that's fine. I'm not emo but I consider meself a rocker, I love emo hairstyles and I think emos are cool, or is that bad now? Do I have to conform to this poster's ideals or anyone else's to make her happy? Take a look at this:

"It really is sad, that people think they need to conform to some emo standard of style to give themselves any worth."
I took the liberty to look at her livejournal in case there was a human behind the rant and spotted this:
"I wanna get a Run DMC tshirt and a Public Enemy tshirt. And, I want a Pacman pendant, but they're like $90 /ripoff -_-' "

So it's not okay to follow the emo style but it's okay to follow the Hip Hop style? Woooow, we're really non-conformist are we? So before mouthing off empty words try thinking before speaking would you?
"WHY are you telling them what to do and how to live their life"
Yes, why are you telling these people how they should live their life? I'd say let people do what *they* want not what other people like you or me or the next person wants. After all why should we care about how other people want to look? Especially those we never met online!

July 16, 2009 at 12:36:00 PM PDT

 
Blogger Cypress said...

Well said. Thanks.

I hate it how "emo" is now becoming mainstream. Individuality means no label, and "emo" claims that's what it's all about... but doesn't that defeat the purpose?

However, it's a cool site that opens you up to trendy hairstyles.

July 29, 2009 at 10:32:00 AM PDT

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

wow! that's kind of back firing what you are posting about "how to" be "emo/scene" but you have a perfectly good point and i wish more people would use this advise and instead of being mindless!:D

August 12, 2009 at 1:48:00 PM PDT

 
Anonymous Saavvaannnalalaa said...

Ehh like the my old saying "You were born an origanal, Don't die a copy!"....

January 12, 2010 at 6:03:00 AM PST

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You have a point, i guess. However, i disagree with what you are mainly ranting about. No one is really telling you what to do. All that seemed like a bit of a pointless rant, and it makes you out to be a hater. I don't mean it as an insult. That's just my opinion. I do agree with some of the things you say, about being yourself. But what this site is really saying, is that you, as an emo or scene kid, are unique. I hope you understand. Thank you for reading.

September 10, 2010 at 4:03:00 PM PDT

 

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